When Kids, Bills, and Chaos Don’t Care About Your Spiritual Journey

purebloomology
Nov 25
3 min read

Let’s be honest. It’s easy to feel “zen” when you’re on a mountain, sipping herbal tea, wrapped in a blanket woven by Himalayan angels. But try staying enlightened when your kid is screaming about lost shoes, Eskom strikes again, your bank balance looks like a bad joke, and someone tells you to “just stay positive or my pet peeve just manifest.”

Right. Namaste my foot.

Most people don’t get to heal in quiet sanctuaries. They heal in kitchens, cars, queues, and bathrooms where the only privacy is 37 seconds behind a closed door except when you (like me) have 2 cats staring at you. Healing in the real world is messy, loud, inconvenient, and completely unglamorous. But here’s the uncomfortable truth:

Life doesn’t stop just because you decided to heal.

Kids still need lifts. Emails still pile up. Debit orders still go off like emotional landmines. And the chaos? Well that shit is not going anywhere.

So now what? Give up? Become a feral goblin and move into the mountains? Tempting. But no.

Healing is not a holiday. It’s not a break from life. It’s a shift inside life.

You definitely can not be waiting for the world to get calmer. Spoiler alert: It won’t. You’re going to have to learn how to stay grounded even when the world is acting like a drunk toddler with scissors. Healing is just like remodeling while you are still occupying your house. Messy, inconvenient and uncomfortable.

Stop Waiting for the Perfect Moment

You know that fantasy where one day you’ll have:

More time
More money
More energy
A supportive family
A clean house

Guess what? That day is simply not scheduled. You will eventually slide into your next life if that is what you are waiting for. You heal now, in the middle of all the chaos, not after it.

“Perfect conditions” are just procrastination and wishful thinking in yoga pants.

Small steps has a massive impact. Healing doesn’t demand three hours of meditation and a gluten-free moon bath. Sometimes it’s:

One deep breath in the car.
A five-minute stretch before bed.
Saying “no” to one draining person.
Drinking water instead of revenge coffee.
Going to bed 20 minutes earlier.

Tiny shifts = Big impact.

Real healing isn’t dramatic. It’s consistent.

Kids don't need a perfect parent you know. They need a regulated one. You don’t have to be Buddha, you just have to not lose your marbles every five minutes. When you calm your nervous system, even slightly, your kids will feel it. Remember they learn by watching, not by lectures. So your healing will become the blueprint of their own healing journeys.

That’s not airy fairy stuff, that’s just biology and science.

Another thing is that your bills don't care about your chakras and that’s fine. Just pay them. Then breathe. Money stress is real, and pretending it’s “low vibration” doesn’t make it go away.

Practicality is spiritual.

Responsibility is grounding.

A stable life supports a stable mind.

I see chaos as a training ground. If everything was peaceful, you’d never learn resilience. Chaos is where you build grit, emotional balance, and boundaries. Think of it like gym. Life is throwing weights at you. Pick one up. Lift it. Then put it down. That’s growth.

Progress and healing does not look very pretty. Sometimes it looks like:

Crying in the shower.
Canceling plans.
Eating toast for dinner.
Saying “I need help.”
Starting again. And again. And again.

None of these are failure. It's just transformation in real time.

So here is a nice truth bomb for you.

You don’t heal to escape your amazing, messy life. You heal so life stops owning you.

So when the kids are loud, the bills are rude, and the chaos is "chaos-sing", you can stand there in all your glory, tired, human, imperfect and still choose peace in small, tiny doses.

That’s real spirituality.

Not floating.

Not flawless.

Just steady.

One Practical Challenge

So here is a nice practical and simply easy challenge for you. Just pick one tiny, daily habit this week to start your journey: